Keep Track


He knows us far better than we know ourselves…….that’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.      Romans 8:28 (MSG)


How we look ahead has a lot to do with how we look back… we keep track of where we’ve come from and the people we’ve known and who have known us along the way.

Who we are now is because of who we were then. The people who raised us and taught us and the ones who hurt us. Our parents and siblings and childhood friends. Aunts and uncles and cousins. Our teachers and preachers or strangers and lovers. All of them had and some still have a part in our lives.

And because God gave us the gift of memory we can’t get around it. That’s just how it works. So it’s important to remember well and truly……the wonderful and happy and the scary and tragic. All the good and all the bad.

A gracious thing happens when you remember well.

The good memories are treasured. They come unexpectedly and make you smile. Sometimes they bring tears but it’s the sweet, cleansing kind.

The other memories….the painful ones and scary ones…..the lonely ones…….the dark ones……all of them can become a source of thankfulness and compassion.

Thankful….because you’ve either made it through or are making it through. And compassion for those who have endured or are enduring the same pain or darkness.

Because we either make our worst memories work for us or they’re going to work against us.

All of them make our story. God takes all of it and uses it for our good.

We just have to let Him.

“It is through memory that we are able to reclaim much of our lives that we have long since written off by finding that in everything that has happened to us over the years, God was offering us possibilities of new life and healing which, though we may have missed them at the time, we can still choose and be brought to life by and healed by all these years later.”      Frederick Buechner

In response to Beloved.


Has someone hurt your feelings?  Are your children doing things you know you taught them NOT to do?  Maybe your job stinks, or worse, you need a job.  Is someone you love going through a difficult time?  Does your marriage feel insecure?  Do you feel trapped in your circumstances?  Experiencing troubling health issues?  Scared about the future?  Feel unloved, insignificant, and unseen?


Let it out.  Quit pretending everything is fine.  Drop the brave disguise.  Let the disappointment or regret or heartbreak surface.  Let the tears flow and cry.  Sob if you need to.

Can’t find the right place or right time to cry?  Just do it.

In the kitchen while loading the dishwasher. The bathroom is a good place. In the car or on a walk in the neighborhood.  Even at work or school.

Don’t worry about others noticing your tears and sniffles and puffy eyes.

An amazing, beautiful thing will happen when you choose to reveal yourself.  Your transparency will invite support and encouragement.  A moment of compassion or understanding, a reassuring touch, a word of hope, a note from someone who’s been there.

All of us want to know…..we need to know that we are not alone.  The comfort you receive from others will help you bear your trial and you’ll get to return the favor sooner than you think.

Praise be to God……the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 

 2 Corinthians 1:3-5