I ran into a friend yesterday. I followed her back to her office and we sat and talked a while. It was good. We caught up, laughed, remembered, and made a plan to hang out soon. I needed that.
I love good conversation. My heart swells like a roasting marshmallow when I get face-time. It’s good to catch up or get to know someone in a deeper way. That happens through face-time. I’m not referring to the app on your smart phone but it can happen there. Can even happen talking on the phone. But you must be genuinely involved.
Conversation requires a balance of listening and answering, offering your thoughts and receiving theirs. A discovery of a mutual hobby or similar work, a laugh, maybe some tears, a shared history…….an open heart. Mostly it requires your full attention. Your simple devotion to what’s right in front of you.
Conversation heals, brings revelation, transforms, uplifts and teaches. If you’re truly engaged.
But we give the fake nods; say the phony “mmhhmms”; pretend we heard what was said. Scattered, distracted, bothered, uninvolved. We walk away from the conversation unaffected. We barely offer anything of ourselves and have learned nothing about the other person.
It makes no difference whether you’re face-to-face or on the phone.
Good conversation, the kind that makes a difference, requires concentration and consideration.
Next time you have a chance to talk with someone, focus your attention. Stop everything else and connect, encourage, inspire, and listen. Make someone’s heart swell.
It’s the simplest way to show someone they matter.